I’ve always been the type to want more. Not in a restless, never-satisfied way — but in a way that refuses to stay stagnant. I’ve never been good at settling, even when things are good.
And saying that out loud can be tricky. Because it can sound like I’m not happy. Like I’m ungrateful. Like I’m always chasing the next thing instead of appreciating where I am. But that couldn’t be further from the truth.I can be deeply content and still want more. I can be grateful and still feel the pull to grow.
I can love my life and still know there’s another level for me. The hard truth is, wanting more isn’t as easy as it sounds.And that’s the part no one really talks about.Wanting more isn’t always exciting. Sometimes it’s uncomfortable.Sometimes it’s isolating.Sometimes it has you questioning yourself before it ever feels empowering.That side doesn’t get talked about enough.
We love ambition when it looks confident and put together — when it comes with clarity and visible results. But there’s a quieter side to wanting more that no one really prepares you for. The part where you feel different before your life actually looks different.
Wanting more can make familiar spaces feel smaller
Conversations you used to enjoy start to feel repetitive.
Rooms you once fit into don’t feel the same anymore.
You find yourself pulling back — not because you’re unhappy, but because you’re more intentional.
And that can feel lonely. Not everyone will understand the shift. Some people will take your distance personally. Others will assume you’ve changed, when really you’ve just changed direction.
Another thing no one tells you: wanting more can come with guilt. Guilt for not feeling fully satisfied. Guilt for craving growth when things are technically “fine.”
Guilt for wanting a different pace, a different lifestyle, a different future. But wanting more doesn’t mean you’re ungrateful. It means you’re paying attention.It means you’re listening instead of ignoring what no longer fits — even if it once did. Wanting more also requires restraint. More boundaries. More discernment.
More comfort with disappointing people so you can stay aligned with yourself. That’s the part people don’t romanticize. Because the truth is, wanting more is rarely about having more. It’s about living with intention, clarity, and self-respect. And before it ever feels expansive, it usually feels uncomfortable. So if you’ve been feeling a little restless lately — not unhappy, just aware — this might be why. You’re not asking for too much. You’re just asking for something truer. And that matters.
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Sunday reminder:
Wanting more isn’t the problem. Ignoring it is.
